but I was interested by a geekery article which quotes someone I ought to know more about who says: don't laugh at the user: she's your wife.

Frankly, the next male or female who tells me I'm not alive to/aware of the unconscious gendering of my reactions or of other people's is going to get a thoroughly feminine smack in the chops, powered by my massive upper body strength which was gained by scrubbing pots and pans and dead-lifting weights over many years, such as 17 heavy items of luggage and a sleeping two-and-a-half year old. Oh, and my (completed, viva'd, and passed) doctoral thesis...

I like your humanity. you keep it up.