Three questions of etiquette

[j4]

1. Is there any non-offensive way to say to people (who have misinterpreted our probably-confusing invitations-and-website nonsense and RSVPd to say they will be pleased to come to the wedding) "I'm sorry but the invite was only to the reception (because the actual wedding is v small)"? I just feel as though any way of saying it feels really horrible but we honestly can't fit everybody in. :-(

2. Is it even worse to ask this on my LJ where a) inevitably some people reading this will not have been invited to either (all other things being equal, this would still be a world-readable journal and the venue would still be finite) and b) everybody will think "oh noes are they talking about me?".

3. Might it be better to just shoot myself now?

Comments

[addedentry.livejournal.com]

It was too good to resist, but we should have looked for a second railway station, called 'Rezeption' (-;

Thank you for being understanding. We'll be glad to see you for the party, though we can't promise to be any less confused.

[sesquipedality.livejournal.com]

If nothing else, this does prove the value of formal etiquette. If I'd just said "yeah, we're coming", we might have not realised and tipped up at the wedding ceremony to much embarrassment all round.

[j4.livejournal.com]

More to the point, you'd've had to sit with my weird family. :-} I am really sorry for the confusion, & hope to see you at the party (which will IMHO be the fun bit, not least because it'll be the bit with CAKE).

[sesquipedality.livejournal.com]

Wouldn't miss it for the world.