I feel like an expert on baby books having read goodness knows how many trying to get Owen's sleep more manageable. I think with the baby books you have to take the attitude that if you get one or two useful things out of a book then appreciate those one or two useful things and ignore the rest even if it's unhelpful. All the stuff like changing nappies, giving baths etc. is pretty trivial after the first few weeks. The hard stuff for us at least has been sleep and decisions about feeding. I actually find all the attachment parenting stuff makes me feel way guiltier and more inadequate than the people who advocates routines, because I want to do the attachment parenting stuff but physically and mentally can't cope with that little sleep.