Trying to tie together a few things I've heard you say, I think I respectfully disagree with you about the value of secrets, secrecy and different levels of openness in relationships (not necessarily romantic ones) with different people.
There are things about myself that I've told only a few people but can think that I wouldn't like my entire circle of friends (let alone Friends) to know, sometimes because I perceive that some friends think ill of people with a certain characteristic and I don't want to change the relationship that I have with said friend already, sometimes because I'd like to tell more people something and want to feel that I have got things right in my mind first. (While I'm prepared to admit I've changed, I don't like declaring myself to be characteristic when I am really !characteristic.)
For those of you playing the meta-game at home, interpret that paragraph how you will. ;-)
Oh, I don't know. I can't put my thoughts into words here terribly expressively or eloquently - might try again at some other point. I do definitely respectfully perceive a difference between our opinions on the subject here, though.
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Date: 2003-02-25 06:33 pm (UTC)There are things about myself that I've told only a few people but can think that I wouldn't like my entire circle of friends (let alone Friends) to know, sometimes because I perceive that some friends think ill of people with a certain characteristic and I don't want to change the relationship that I have with said friend already, sometimes because I'd like to tell more people something and want to feel that I have got things right in my mind first. (While I'm prepared to admit I've changed, I don't like declaring myself to be characteristic when I am really !characteristic.)
For those of you playing the meta-game at home, interpret that paragraph how you will. ;-)
Oh, I don't know. I can't put my thoughts into words here terribly expressively or eloquently - might try again at some other point. I do definitely respectfully perceive a difference between our opinions on the subject here, though.