I don't try to badger him either, in my case, but I am trying to be aware of doing it, and am making a point of sometimes saying to myself "ok, he gave me something last time - I'll try to let this go this time". It's less about him not talking than it is about me trying to understand why he finds it so hard, sometimes. I don't know if their reasons are the same - have you ever managed to get S to talk about why he finds it hard to respond?
Of course I do still have times when I need the feedback and just can't let it go, but I do try to preface it with "I need this feedback, please try to talk to me about this because it's causing me a big problem". I find this mostly works - which lends some credence to my partial-theory about Asperger's. If he has it all explained to him clearly with reasons for why he needs to do something/tell me something/whatever, he does seem to find it easier to respond. If I could draw diagrams for everything in life I think he'd find it even easier... sigh.
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Date: 2003-03-13 10:14 am (UTC)Of course I do still have times when I need the feedback and just can't let it go, but I do try to preface it with "I need this feedback, please try to talk to me about this because it's causing me a big problem". I find this mostly works - which lends some credence to my partial-theory about Asperger's. If he has it all explained to him clearly with reasons for why he needs to do something/tell me something/whatever, he does seem to find it easier to respond. If I could draw diagrams for everything in life I think he'd find it even easier... sigh.
Have more hugs, just cos I'm feeling huggy tonight! *****HUGS*****