I guess it's not something I really thought of doing until I was 'liberated' from the whole 'manly' thing, ironically. I don't think it helps that I'm naturally of the 'wallflower' persuasion.
I've certainly seen other people do it, sleeping with people to gain favour with them (and something I've worried about a lot recently). It's not something I do myself, but unless you get tarted up in lots of places you're ignored in the sense that strangers don't even talk to you, as well. I don't know if it's because people don't, in general, have conversations for pleasure, and only really as part of chatting up for mating, or if that's too disingenuous but it's how it seems sometimes. At places that are über-trendy meatmarkets that's kind of par for the course I suppose, but at geek/goth things unless you turn up with the right badges (for whichever group), you're dismissed by a lot of people before you open your mouth. It's starting to remind me of America with the Jocks and the Nerds and stuff.
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Date: 2003-01-20 05:46 am (UTC)I've certainly seen other people do it, sleeping with people to gain favour with them (and something I've worried about a lot recently). It's not something I do myself, but unless you get tarted up in lots of places you're ignored in the sense that strangers don't even talk to you, as well. I don't know if it's because people don't, in general, have conversations for pleasure, and only really as part of chatting up for mating, or if that's too disingenuous but it's how it seems sometimes. At places that are über-trendy meatmarkets that's kind of par for the course I suppose, but at geek/goth things unless you turn up with the right badges (for whichever group), you're dismissed by a lot of people before you open your mouth. It's starting to remind me of America with the Jocks and the Nerds and stuff.