Didn't say you were a useless sponger. Not at all. Did imply that renting your room to someone and using the rent to pay for a place for yourself, even short-term, *might* be a good *temporary* option.
I'm sorry, but I really don't think that would work. If it was just a room in a shared student house then it might be feasible, but it's not -- it's half of nearly all the rooms in a large house. I also think (from what I know of sion_a's reaction to new people) that he'd be even more miserable if he suddenly had to share the house with a random stranger. The house is really not geared to general student-style house-sharing; it's geared to a couple living together. Untangling that would really only be possible with either major rearrangement (not really practical for short-term) or, well, selling the house and splitting everything down the middle.
Your skill set is much more impressive than you think, and you have had more than one job, if my understanding is correct: are you discounting your librarianship, for example?
I've only had one job since graduating. The job at Templeton during my "year out" is the only other thing that's anything like a real job, but I'm wary of saying too much about that because doing so would emphasise the fact that I had to redo a year of my degree...
www.belbin.com
I'm not sure I understand what these people do. From the website it appears that they're charging £25 for some kind of personality test...
You can play at least one stringed instrument and can do so in an orchestra: jobspeak translates this into teamwork, ability to take direction whilst acting as a responsible individual, and demonstrates commitment and self-discipline.
Really? I never normally mention hobbies unless there's a place for them on an application form...
Now, in Cambridge, amongst a very geeky peer group (not your good friends, but your potential competitors for some jobs), you may feel you have all the clout of some overcooked pasta,
It's the same with my social group a lot of the time, to be honest -- I feel like I'm worthless except as a kind of novelty. ("See the funny shiny arts graduate! See it dance!")
You could easily spend a worse day than using your local Business Advice Centre's "start your own business" training day
Um... but I don't want to start my own business. And the thought of a day of being surrounded by embryonic CEOs who are brimming over with amazing ideas for exciting new business ventures makes me feel physically sick. (Though I suppose I could spend a worse day, if I gave myself food-poisoning and asked all the people I know to phone me up and tell me how wonderful they are and how worthless I am...)
[stuff about kids]
I know logically that I've got loads of time, but ... I dunno. I still feel like in the meantime I'm just killing time. If I know now what I want to do, it seems an utterly miserable prospect to have to spend 20 years doing things I don't really want to do first. It might make more sense if the things I didn't want to do were actually contributing towards the long-term plan, but they really are just filling in the empty spaces.
Many people get stronger and more well as they mature: you might well do so, too.
I guess it's possible. I don't have MS, no; there's nothing actually wrong with me, it's not a real illness or anything like that, I'm just stupid, lazy, incompetent and generally incapable of being a real grown-up.
You don't seem to be very happy with some of the things you have been doing, and there are a few things very much in your power to change which will have no side-effects you might regret later.
Um. I'm afraid I still can't see anything that's in my power to change that won't have bad side-effects... I'm sorry if I'm just too stupid to see it. :-(
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Re: Katherine from Oxford
Date: 2003-10-30 04:47 pm (UTC)I'm sorry, but I really don't think that would work. If it was just a room in a shared student house then it might be feasible, but it's not -- it's half of nearly all the rooms in a large house. I also think (from what I know of
Your skill set is much more impressive than you think, and you have had more than one job, if my understanding is correct: are you discounting your librarianship, for example?
I've only had one job since graduating. The job at Templeton during my "year out" is the only other thing that's anything like a real job, but I'm wary of saying too much about that because doing so would emphasise the fact that I had to redo a year of my degree...
www.belbin.com
I'm not sure I understand what these people do. From the website it appears that they're charging £25 for some kind of personality test...
You can play at least one stringed instrument and can do so in an orchestra: jobspeak translates this into teamwork, ability to take direction whilst acting as a responsible individual, and demonstrates commitment and self-discipline.
Really? I never normally mention hobbies unless there's a place for them on an application form...
Now, in Cambridge, amongst a very geeky peer group (not your good friends, but your potential competitors for some jobs), you may feel you have all the clout of some overcooked pasta,
It's the same with my social group a lot of the time, to be honest -- I feel like I'm worthless except as a kind of novelty. ("See the funny shiny arts graduate! See it dance!")
You could easily spend a worse day than using your local Business Advice Centre's "start your own business" training day
Um... but I don't want to start my own business. And the thought of a day of being surrounded by embryonic CEOs who are brimming over with amazing ideas for exciting new business ventures makes me feel physically sick. (Though I suppose I could spend a worse day, if I gave myself food-poisoning and asked all the people I know to phone me up and tell me how wonderful they are and how worthless I am...)
[stuff about kids]
I know logically that I've got loads of time, but ... I dunno. I still feel like in the meantime I'm just killing time. If I know now what I want to do, it seems an utterly miserable prospect to have to spend 20 years doing things I don't really want to do first. It might make more sense if the things I didn't want to do were actually contributing towards the long-term plan, but they really are just filling in the empty spaces.
Many people get stronger and more well as they mature: you might well do so, too.
I guess it's possible. I don't have MS, no; there's nothing actually wrong with me, it's not a real illness or anything like that, I'm just stupid, lazy, incompetent and generally incapable of being a real grown-up.
You don't seem to be very happy with some of the things you have been doing, and there are a few things very much in your power to change which will have no side-effects you might regret later.
Um. I'm afraid I still can't see anything that's in my power to change that won't have bad side-effects... I'm sorry if I'm just too stupid to see it. :-(