lnr wrote I wish I could make myself see it like that. Then it wouldn't matter if I have to be quiet about seeing one set of friends in case the others object (or vice versa), I wouldn't care if people avoid me because of who I'm with, it wouldn't hurt watching people I care about pointedly ignoring each other across me. No-one's fallen out with *me* so obviously everything's just hunkydory.
To which I say that (a) do you want people who behave so badly to be *your* friends, rather than backing off and just reckoning them to be acquaintances? (b) You can't make people be friends with each other, but if they can't be civilised or mature enough to avoid judging you for having friends they don't like, they have the problem, not you.
There is no reason why you should put up with people behaving so selfishly and unpleasantly in your presence: if they want to ignore each other pointedly across you then get out from the middle and put a pox on both their houses. Your own company in front of the television with a box of popcorn, or a good book and nice cup of something, would be 1,000 times better than hanging out with folk who seem to have the emotional sensitivity of a pack of fifteen-year-olds.
Unless of course everyone in this instance is fifteen, in which case you should all be at home doing your homework and not making each other miserable with hate-parties... (VBG).
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Re: friends & responsibility
Date: 2003-12-05 04:35 am (UTC)To which I say that (a) do you want people who behave so badly to be *your* friends, rather than backing off and just reckoning them to be acquaintances? (b) You can't make people be friends with each other, but if they can't be civilised or mature enough to avoid judging you for having friends they don't like, they have the problem, not you.
There is no reason why you should put up with people behaving so selfishly and unpleasantly in your presence: if they want to ignore each other pointedly across you then get out from the middle and put a pox on both their houses. Your own company in front of the television with a box of popcorn, or a good book and nice cup of something, would be 1,000 times better than hanging out with folk who seem to have the emotional sensitivity of a pack of fifteen-year-olds.
Unless of course everyone in this instance is fifteen, in which case you should all be at home doing your homework and not making each other miserable with hate-parties... (VBG).
No, honestly, why put up with it?