First up: shiny claw *gooood* (is it fixable, btw?), ditto nice corset & boots :-)
Thank you. :) doop reckons shiny claw is fixable, but I think I will have to appeal to sion_a's superior soldering skills for the actual fixing of it.
And I worry rather about whether Pete's really OK about poly-stuff. He tells me he is; and he doesn't seem to be doing any major-league moping; but, like Sion, he's pretty bad at asking for things. And when he says stuff like "it's more important that you're happy", that gets me *really* worried.
Nggghhh. Yes. That one always worries me too. It's the whole infinite-back-off of trying to make each other happy. Sometimes you (you-in-general) have to make yourself happy as well, and if everybody's always only trying to make other people happy, nobody ends up being happy, because everybody's too stressed about trying to keep other people happy.
But nor can I be enormously helpful in "how to get actual answers", cos I haven't worked it out either, nor established whether I'm just being paranoid & should take statements at face value.
*hugs*
I think (and this is theory, obviously, because I clearly don't get it right) that sometimes you have to take things at face value, otherwise you'll just always be worrying "but what if they don't really mean it?" -- but it's hard to do that when they often do say "Nothing's wrong" when something is wrong.
Also: might you feeling awful & guilty be partly exacerbated by hangover-related mental trauma?
Definitely. :-( Still feeling very flaky even now. Will try to get proper non-hungover sleep tonight, maybe that will help.
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Date: 2003-02-10 10:21 am (UTC)Thank you. :) doop reckons shiny claw is fixable, but I think I will have to appeal to
And I worry rather about whether Pete's really OK about poly-stuff. He tells me he is; and he doesn't seem to be doing any major-league moping; but, like Sion, he's pretty bad at asking for things. And when he says stuff like "it's more important that you're happy", that gets me *really* worried.
Nggghhh. Yes. That one always worries me too. It's the whole infinite-back-off of trying to make each other happy. Sometimes you (you-in-general) have to make yourself happy as well, and if everybody's always only trying to make other people happy, nobody ends up being happy, because everybody's too stressed about trying to keep other people happy.
But nor can I be enormously helpful in "how to get actual answers", cos I haven't worked it out either, nor established whether I'm just being paranoid & should take statements at face value.
*hugs*
I think (and this is theory, obviously, because I clearly don't get it right) that sometimes you have to take things at face value, otherwise you'll just always be worrying "but what if they don't really mean it?" -- but it's hard to do that when they often do say "Nothing's wrong" when something is wrong.
Also: might you feeling awful & guilty be partly exacerbated by hangover-related mental trauma?
Definitely. :-( Still feeling very flaky even now. Will try to get proper non-hungover sleep tonight, maybe that will help.