It's the whole infinite-back-off of trying to make each other happy. Sometimes you (you-in-general) have to make yourself happy as well, and if everybody's always only trying to make other people happy, nobody ends up being happy, because everybody's too stressed about trying to keep other people happy.
I've kind of come to that conclusion, as well, by now. Bit of both, sort of thing.
I think (and this is theory, obviously, because I clearly don't get it right) that sometimes you have to take things at face value, otherwise you'll just always be worrying "but what if they don't really mean it?" -- but it's hard to do that when they often do say "Nothing's wrong" when something is wrong.
I've decided that for the moment, anyway, I'm going with face value. Pete doesn't seem in a particularly narky mood, & if anything has been being slightly fluffier recently, so I reckon currently we're probably OK. This will not, of course, prevent me worrying a *bit*, but I intend to attempt to minimise it :-)
Definitely. :-( Still feeling very flaky even now. Will try to get proper non-hungover sleep tonight, maybe that will help.
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Date: 2003-02-10 02:18 pm (UTC)I've kind of come to that conclusion, as well, by now. Bit of both, sort of thing.
I think (and this is theory, obviously, because I clearly don't get it right) that sometimes you have to take things at face value, otherwise you'll just always be worrying "but what if they don't really mean it?" -- but it's hard to do that when they often do say "Nothing's wrong" when something is wrong.
I've decided that for the moment, anyway, I'm going with face value. Pete doesn't seem in a particularly narky mood, & if anything has been being slightly fluffier recently, so I reckon currently we're probably OK. This will not, of course, prevent me worrying a *bit*, but I intend to attempt to minimise it :-)
Definitely. :-( Still feeling very flaky even now. Will try to get proper non-hungover sleep tonight, maybe that will help.
I reckon it's likely, myself. Sleep well! *hug*