Creepy people
Mar. 1st, 2004 09:54 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
j4Okay, now, I'm used to people indulging in flirtatious (and at times obscene) banter on newsgroups. I don't mind people making comments about bits of my body, items of my underwear, and so on, particularly if those comments are funny. If the wordplay's good, anything goes.
But there's one person on uk.misc who is pissing me off. He's clearly only about 18 so I suppose he'll grow out of it, but he's made a couple of comments about removing my knickers and "rummaging around in my bra" which just make me feel really uncomfortable. I think if I got on with him in other threads -- if I felt he was a friend, or at least a generally decent person -- then I wouldn't object, though I still wouldn't think he was being particularly funny. But he's certainly not a friend (I've already got into one argument with him about cars -- he believes cars should be as fast as possible; he believes that he should be allowed to pay only one lot of road tax for 2 cars; he also believes that the size/power of the car has no effect on the cost of insurance) and when he's not shouting about how big his cock^H^H^H^Hcar is, he's quoting 20-page posts and only adding "ROTFPMSL!!!!" at the end. In other words, he's a wanker.
The problem is, I don't feel I can object on the group (and I certainly don't feel I can respond the way I want to, i.e. something along the lines of "fuck off, you top-posting wankfisted teenage sleazemonkey") without everybody else calling me a hypocrite, and/or telling me that if I can't take the good-natured banter I should get out of the group.
I don't like killfiling individuals but I suspect it's the only thing to do; but it makes me feel as though I've failed -- I don't want to react to something so stupid, something that basically amounts to a small boy sniggering at rude words. But I still feel uncomfortable with it.
Maybe I'm just overreacting.
But there's one person on uk.misc who is pissing me off. He's clearly only about 18 so I suppose he'll grow out of it, but he's made a couple of comments about removing my knickers and "rummaging around in my bra" which just make me feel really uncomfortable. I think if I got on with him in other threads -- if I felt he was a friend, or at least a generally decent person -- then I wouldn't object, though I still wouldn't think he was being particularly funny. But he's certainly not a friend (I've already got into one argument with him about cars -- he believes cars should be as fast as possible; he believes that he should be allowed to pay only one lot of road tax for 2 cars; he also believes that the size/power of the car has no effect on the cost of insurance) and when he's not shouting about how big his cock^H^H^H^Hcar is, he's quoting 20-page posts and only adding "ROTFPMSL!!!!" at the end. In other words, he's a wanker.
The problem is, I don't feel I can object on the group (and I certainly don't feel I can respond the way I want to, i.e. something along the lines of "fuck off, you top-posting wankfisted teenage sleazemonkey") without everybody else calling me a hypocrite, and/or telling me that if I can't take the good-natured banter I should get out of the group.
I don't like killfiling individuals but I suspect it's the only thing to do; but it makes me feel as though I've failed -- I don't want to react to something so stupid, something that basically amounts to a small boy sniggering at rude words. But I still feel uncomfortable with it.
Maybe I'm just overreacting.
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Date: 2004-03-01 04:07 am (UTC)I don't think anyone would call you a hypocrite, unless they're also hypocritical. Look at Huge - he is objectionable in some posts, witty in others, is quite prepared to tell someone to fuck off if they won't play nicely, and flirts well.
Do you read uk.misc because you feel everyone should be able to say whatever they want to you, or because you want to have interesting/fun/deep discussions on your own terms? If the latter, killfiling the people who aren't doing much to add to your interest/fun isn't failing, it's sorting wheat from chaff.
Or something.
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Date: 2004-03-01 04:49 am (UTC)But I feel like that could just as easily be a description of me. :-(
The emotional maturity involved in picking a screen name like Peter Hucker
? Am I missing some reference here?
Do you read uk.misc because you feel everyone should be able to say whatever they want to you, or because you want to have interesting/fun/deep discussions on your own terms?
The latter; but I also know I haven't been there long enough to be allowed to define my own terms!
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Date: 2004-03-01 05:30 am (UTC)2. P. Hucker. Phucker. Fucker. He may be 28 physically, but he's still 14 emotionally.
3. You've been posting to misc for, what, a year or so? That's long enough, believe me. And of course you can define your own terms - that's why they're yours! If you define your terms (to yourself) and post according to them and people keep responding, you're doing fine.
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Date: 2004-03-01 06:02 am (UTC)Oh, I see. D'oh. Sorry.
And of course you can define your own terms - that's why they're yours!
Um, yes, but there has to be some sort of consensus of whatsits. And I worry that if I define my own terms everybody else will just say "Your terms are wrong" and ignore me...
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Date: 2004-03-02 09:43 am (UTC)