Creepy people
Mar. 1st, 2004 09:54 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
j4Okay, now, I'm used to people indulging in flirtatious (and at times obscene) banter on newsgroups. I don't mind people making comments about bits of my body, items of my underwear, and so on, particularly if those comments are funny. If the wordplay's good, anything goes.
But there's one person on uk.misc who is pissing me off. He's clearly only about 18 so I suppose he'll grow out of it, but he's made a couple of comments about removing my knickers and "rummaging around in my bra" which just make me feel really uncomfortable. I think if I got on with him in other threads -- if I felt he was a friend, or at least a generally decent person -- then I wouldn't object, though I still wouldn't think he was being particularly funny. But he's certainly not a friend (I've already got into one argument with him about cars -- he believes cars should be as fast as possible; he believes that he should be allowed to pay only one lot of road tax for 2 cars; he also believes that the size/power of the car has no effect on the cost of insurance) and when he's not shouting about how big his cock^H^H^H^Hcar is, he's quoting 20-page posts and only adding "ROTFPMSL!!!!" at the end. In other words, he's a wanker.
The problem is, I don't feel I can object on the group (and I certainly don't feel I can respond the way I want to, i.e. something along the lines of "fuck off, you top-posting wankfisted teenage sleazemonkey") without everybody else calling me a hypocrite, and/or telling me that if I can't take the good-natured banter I should get out of the group.
I don't like killfiling individuals but I suspect it's the only thing to do; but it makes me feel as though I've failed -- I don't want to react to something so stupid, something that basically amounts to a small boy sniggering at rude words. But I still feel uncomfortable with it.
Maybe I'm just overreacting.
But there's one person on uk.misc who is pissing me off. He's clearly only about 18 so I suppose he'll grow out of it, but he's made a couple of comments about removing my knickers and "rummaging around in my bra" which just make me feel really uncomfortable. I think if I got on with him in other threads -- if I felt he was a friend, or at least a generally decent person -- then I wouldn't object, though I still wouldn't think he was being particularly funny. But he's certainly not a friend (I've already got into one argument with him about cars -- he believes cars should be as fast as possible; he believes that he should be allowed to pay only one lot of road tax for 2 cars; he also believes that the size/power of the car has no effect on the cost of insurance) and when he's not shouting about how big his cock^H^H^H^Hcar is, he's quoting 20-page posts and only adding "ROTFPMSL!!!!" at the end. In other words, he's a wanker.
The problem is, I don't feel I can object on the group (and I certainly don't feel I can respond the way I want to, i.e. something along the lines of "fuck off, you top-posting wankfisted teenage sleazemonkey") without everybody else calling me a hypocrite, and/or telling me that if I can't take the good-natured banter I should get out of the group.
I don't like killfiling individuals but I suspect it's the only thing to do; but it makes me feel as though I've failed -- I don't want to react to something so stupid, something that basically amounts to a small boy sniggering at rude words. But I still feel uncomfortable with it.
Maybe I'm just overreacting.
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Date: 2004-03-01 04:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-03-01 05:20 am (UTC)For one thing, their livejournal doesn't form bits and pieces of a supposedly coherent thread formed of other people's livejournals, so not-reading-their-livejournal doesn't (usually) render other people's livejournals less comprehensible.
For another thing, a personal blog is an individual's own space, where AFAIAC they can say pretty much what they like (people may disagree, or object, but the person who owns the blog generally has some kind of moderator's rights over who posts what, so essentially they can quash anything they don't want to appear there, or prevent people commenting at all if they want).
For a third thing, I think there is a -- moral? conceptual, maybe? -- difference between taking active moves to block somebody's writings from your view, and passively refraining from seeking out what they write. That's why I try not to use killfiles on individuals, and I don't delete objectionable comments from my LJ, but (funnily enough) I don't actually read everybody's LJ. Generally refraining from reading an LJ is more like not reading a group which is irrelevant to me (e.g. if somebody only ever posts about knitting or golf or something else which doesn't really interest me -- same as I wouldn't read alt.rec.sports.golf or alt.rec.knitting or whatever); in other cases it's more to do with attitude than content (e.g. if somebody only ever whinges, or only ever rants -- same as I wouldn't bother reading alt.flame); but in either case I wouldn't want to block all comments from the individual (which would be more like killfiling them), because they might comment on something that I was interested in.