If you had to rank every lover you have ever had in descending order of how much you enjoyed your sexual encounters with them, what would the order be?
This is going to sound like a cop-out, but I'm really not sure I can answer that. They were all different! It'd be comparing apples and oranges, y'know? I mean, an apple is great when you want something crunchy and crisp and slightly tart, and an orange is great when you want something soft and juicy and peelable, but as for which is better...? No idea.
I've had very few sexual encounters that I haven't enjoyed, really. There was a bloke I slept with at college who had a beard (I don't normally like beards, though there have been exceptions to that rule) and I didn't really fancy him, I just slept with him because I was bored. He'd probably be at the bottom of the list. ... Other than him? I dunno. I've slept with friends and, well, enjoyed it in a fun-and-friendly way but not so much in a strongly sexual way. Depends what you mean by "enjoyed", really. I've slept with people who I've known were bad for me, known were hurting me and using me, but still enjoyed the sex at a purely physical (or as close to 'purely physical' as sex gets for me) level.
Um, okay, I am reluctant to answer this question -- it's a fair cop -- but mostly because I really don't want to hurt anybody.
Good question, though. Useful for the things I was trying to find out.
(Depending on your definitions, somewhere between 25 and 30-something.)
I'm not reluctant to answer it -- why should I be? -- but I should point out that I don't actually keep count; I have to reconstruct the list every time somebody asks me this question.
I think that's a very good type of question given that the object is to make someone reluctant to answer it, because it means passing judgement on others in a public forum.
On the other hand, it's not a good question per se because it's probably impossible to answer. You might just as well have asked someone to rank Bach, Beethoven, Bizet, Britten and Byrd in strict order of musical talent.
Though of course it shouldn't mean passing any sort of meaningful judgement: just because I don't enjoy A as much as B (for any values of A and B in any context) doesn't mean that A is bad, or that other people mightn't enjoy A more than B; it doesn't even mean that I don't enjoy A.
You might just as well have asked someone to rank Bach, Beethoven, Bizet, Britten and Byrd in strict order of musical talent.
Er, it's not really the same though, is it? I doubt if you could get any two musicologists or whatever to agree on what "musical talent" constituted, let alone which of the composers you list had most of it. Whereas the original question was asking me to rank people in order of "how much [I] enjoyed [my] sexual encounters with them" -- purely subjective, I'm the only person qualified to answer it, I could (if I so wished) define it however I like really, and nobody would have any grounds on which to argue with me.
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Date: 2004-07-29 08:53 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-07-29 03:15 pm (UTC)This is going to sound like a cop-out, but I'm really not sure I can answer that. They were all different! It'd be comparing apples and oranges, y'know? I mean, an apple is great when you want something crunchy and crisp and slightly tart, and an orange is great when you want something soft and juicy and peelable, but as for which is better...? No idea.
I've had very few sexual encounters that I haven't enjoyed, really. There was a bloke I slept with at college who had a beard (I don't normally like beards, though there have been exceptions to that rule) and I didn't really fancy him, I just slept with him because I was bored. He'd probably be at the bottom of the list. ... Other than him? I dunno. I've slept with friends and, well, enjoyed it in a fun-and-friendly way but not so much in a strongly sexual way. Depends what you mean by "enjoyed", really. I've slept with people who I've known were bad for me, known were hurting me and using me, but still enjoyed the sex at a purely physical (or as close to 'purely physical' as sex gets for me) level.
Um, okay, I am reluctant to answer this question -- it's a fair cop -- but mostly because I really don't want to hurt anybody.
Good question, though. Useful for the things I was trying to find out.
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Date: 2004-07-30 06:17 am (UTC)I don't really think you'll be especially reluctant to answer that one, but I suppose there are various reasons why you might be.
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Date: 2004-07-30 05:36 pm (UTC)(Depending on your definitions, somewhere between 25 and 30-something.)
I'm not reluctant to answer it -- why should I be? -- but I should point out that I don't actually keep count; I have to reconstruct the list every time somebody asks me this question.
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Date: 2004-07-30 06:05 am (UTC)On the other hand, it's not a good question per se because it's probably impossible to answer. You might just as well have asked someone to rank Bach, Beethoven, Bizet, Britten and Byrd in strict order of musical talent.
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Date: 2004-07-30 05:32 pm (UTC)Though of course it shouldn't mean passing any sort of meaningful judgement: just because I don't enjoy A as much as B (for any values of A and B in any context) doesn't mean that A is bad, or that other people mightn't enjoy A more than B; it doesn't even mean that I don't enjoy A.
You might just as well have asked someone to rank Bach, Beethoven, Bizet, Britten and Byrd in strict order of musical talent.
Er, it's not really the same though, is it? I doubt if you could get any two musicologists or whatever to agree on what "musical talent" constituted, let alone which of the composers you list had most of it. Whereas the original question was asking me to rank people in order of "how much [I] enjoyed [my] sexual encounters with them" -- purely subjective, I'm the only person qualified to answer it, I could (if I so wished) define it however I like really, and nobody would have any grounds on which to argue with me.