Three questions of etiquette

[j4]

1. Is there any non-offensive way to say to people (who have misinterpreted our probably-confusing invitations-and-website nonsense and RSVPd to say they will be pleased to come to the wedding) "I'm sorry but the invite was only to the reception (because the actual wedding is v small)"? I just feel as though any way of saying it feels really horrible but we honestly can't fit everybody in. :-(

2. Is it even worse to ask this on my LJ where a) inevitably some people reading this will not have been invited to either (all other things being equal, this would still be a world-readable journal and the venue would still be finite) and b) everybody will think "oh noes are they talking about me?".

3. Might it be better to just shoot myself now?

Comments

[tigerfort.livejournal.com]

Modulo constraints on space, I'm not sure what people's reasons are for inviting someone to the reception but not the wedding.

The actual wedding is, for at least some people, more a legal formula than a ceremony-as-such; the reception is a party to celebrate. If you view it in that light, you may actively not want to invite people to the boring legal bit, while still wanting them at the fun party afterwards. (In addition, as you say, to space issues.)

j4: what everyone else has said. I thought the invite was perfectly clear, and must remember to actually RSVP.