Thanks for all the fish

[j4]

Right. Thank you very much for all the useful hints and tips. (Nobody actually sent me any fish.) You're all fab.

Anyway, I've sent the bloody thing in now on the basis that something is better than nothing, and while I could keep refining and revising it for the rest of my life I wouldn't actually be any closer to getting a job...

Wonder if the temp agency will come up with anything. They didn't sound very hopeful about getting me part-time work. :-(

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Re: Parenting Plan, etc

[(Anonymous)]

I haven't my copy in front of me - but it looks oddly familiar. Given your present possibilities it might make excellent reading for you. A.N. Other probably knows it all already, or maybe doesn't, but it's a good read even if you aren't in the separation phase.

Your financial plans sound reasonable for the ST. Freeze your credit card in a bowl of water and then you will have defrosting time to consider your purchase. Size of bowl determines amount of consideration time.

Being accountable to/for another person is, yes, useful, but starting with a committed relationship with another adult is - IMHO - fairer on everyone. You could be more advanced in every way than most other people, but the more one learns with other adults in the way of cooling-off times, forgiveness, distractions, keeping perspective, being patient, and not letting the niggling little stuff finally push you over the edge, the better. It's the Niggles (tiny, irresponsible demons born of Carelessness, Haste, and Inattention) which get most marriages (sensu lato). If you can't detoxify the little beasts - and they will not change, some of them, ever, and worse yet their effects can be cumulative - then you will have your child's Niggles AND Pogrebins to fight as well as your own. Kicking your kid's personal pogrebin without kicking the child too takes a lot of skill. Needs lots of practice. :-)

Whilst you are looking for other Real Work have you thought seriously about becoming a classroom assistant a few hours a week at a primary school? Six-year-olds are an antidote to most adult BS.

"Although I've known a naughty child,
'Tis honester to own up:
I've never met a naughty child
as naughty as a grown-up."

His Honour Judge Edward Parry (1895) Katawampus, Its Causes and Cure. Alfred Nutt and Sons, London.


as ever

K

Re: Parenting Plan, etc

[j4.livejournal.com]

Freeze your credit card in a bowl of water and then you will have defrosting time to consider your purchase.

<giggle> I like that idea. I stopped carrying my credit card around in my wallet, which definitely helped; the problem is I probably will need it now to buy Christmas presents for people (because I tend to buy stuff off TEH INTERWEB because that way I don't have to fight my way round shops full of shuffling morons and screaming kids[1]).

Being accountable to/for another person is, yes, useful, but starting with a committed relationship with another adult is - IMHO - fairer on everyone.

Well, I'm in a committed relationship with another adult... unfortunately said adult is currently living 400 miles away from me.

You could be more advanced in every way than most other people, but the more one learns with other adults in the way of cooling-off times, forgiveness, distractions, keeping perspective, being patient, and not letting the niggling little stuff finally push you over the edge, the better.

I don't think I'm particularly advanced. I think I've had a lot of relationships with a lot of fairly difficult people, and I think I'm getting better at being patient, though I still get really wound up when people Just Don't Listen, or Just Don't Try. Oh, and I do get frustrated by people who seem to have managed to get through 30+ years of adult life without ever thinking about anything. ... Actually, I'm an intolerant little bitch really, aren't I? <sigh>

$other_half doesn't cause me niggles, though. Or at least he causes me fewer niggles than anybody else I've ever met. I don't want to go all gushy on LJ, but I've never before found anybody whose mind just slots into mine so perfectly. Maybe this is still just NRE (7-ish months into the relationship), but it doesn't feel like that. It just feels ... right.

<sigh>

Kicking your kid's personal pogrebin without kicking the child too takes a lot of skill. Needs lots of practice.

I'm definitely much better at kicking other people's assorted menageries of creeping horrors than I am at kicking my own. Possibly because I have a lot more belief in other people's inherent worth than in my own... possibly also because it's a lot easier to say the right things than it is to actually change the way you think. I can deal with the 'words' side of it, but when I'm trying to deal with myself I know it's just words, so it doesn't seem to fix anything.

('Just' words. Ha.)

Words is the thing that scares me most about the idea of having kids, to be honest. The knowledge that one throwaway comment from me might turn out to be the self-esteem-destroying talisman that they carry around with them for the rest of their lives. :-(

Whilst you are looking for other Real Work have you thought seriously about becoming a classroom assistant a few hours a week at a primary school?

I'd love to do something like that, but all those sorts of jobs (at least, all the ones that I've seen advertised...) seem to require childcare qualifications or equivalent experience, and I have neither. :-/

(I do also worry about ending up with a CV that says very clearly "I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life" ... though I suppose I don't need to put everything on it.)

BTW, while I remember -- I've been meaning to ask this for the last few posts, but my brain has been replaced with a colander or something similarly holey -- do you want a LiveJournal of your own? I still have plenty of codes left -- email me if you want one.