Finding something which works for you is definitely an achievement, though I'm not sure whether finding something or the act of looking for something is more valuable.
Personally I lean towards the idea that the act of looking is more valuable; I think that's because I believe that we make our own goals, so the actual achievement of a goal is only as important as we make it. Er, it all gets a bit circular here...
Apologies also for using inappropriate terminology.
I don't think you did, did you? If you mean my objection to the word "play" in a BDSM context, it's the most widely-used term, it's almost certainly the "right" term to use when talking about it because it's the most widely-understood, I just personally don't really like it. Not sure why; it's certainly not that I think it's "too serious" to be described as "play" or anything like that. I think it's all part of my rather complicated hangups about the BDSM "community", and communities in general.
Anyway, I'm glad I've given you stuff to think about, even if it turns out that you come back and say "j4, you're talking absolute rubbish!" -- the process of thinking and debating etc. is usually a lot more interesting IMHO than the specifics of the conclusion. :-) (Back to the journey vs destination thing again...)
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Re: long comment (both parts, my second part)
Date: 2003-05-23 04:00 am (UTC)Personally I lean towards the idea that the act of looking is more valuable; I think that's because I believe that we make our own goals, so the actual achievement of a goal is only as important as we make it. Er, it all gets a bit circular here...
Apologies also for using inappropriate terminology.
I don't think you did, did you? If you mean my objection to the word "play" in a BDSM context, it's the most widely-used term, it's almost certainly the "right" term to use when talking about it because it's the most widely-understood, I just personally don't really like it. Not sure why; it's certainly not that I think it's "too serious" to be described as "play" or anything like that. I think it's all part of my rather complicated hangups about the BDSM "community", and communities in general.
Anyway, I'm glad I've given you stuff to think about, even if it turns out that you come back and say "